Relationships are the spice of life.
Interpersonal Therapies
Specializing in boundary work, communication & assertiveness skills, and assessing and changing repeating behaviors that do not serve you
“We were created for social connection. We are at our best when we have healthy relationships with people who genuinely care about us, respect us, and lift us up.”
- Robyn L. Gobin
Relationships are the very reason many people live. We are social beings and need to have connection to be happy and content.
Many of my clients come to find friction or unhappiness with the state of their relationship(s). Maybe you are considering a break up or having a hard time finding a partner. Maybe making or keeping friends is challenging. You could find your relationships have an unequal power balance. It can be hard to say no or speak up for yourself. You could find keeping a job, or getting along with co-workers or your boss challenging.
You may have noticed repeating patterns or behaviors in how you engage in relationships. Doing the same thing over and over and not getting the desired result.
Become empowered to have the relationships you want.
While working with folks to improve relationships, it is first important to get a picture of what is going on. I am here to listen and and learn about your concerns and your lived experience. I will ask questions relating to current and past relationships. Depending on your concerns and patterns, I may assign an assessment or homework to strengthen or enhance what we are doing in session. I have helped folks with role plays and formatting/scripts for important or difficult conversations with loved one.
What are the possible outcomes?
Through my work with individual I have witness relationships change! I have helped folks learn and improve boundaries and limit setting. I have supported folks with finding healthier relationships. Individuals were able to work through ending a relationship, improving on a relationship, starting new relationships, and seeing their own strengths and weaknesses relating to connection. You will walk away with new tools to use in current and future relationships.
WHAT WE’LL DO TOGETHER
Therapy for Relationships Concerns
Improving your Boundaries
I am looking at you people pleasers. In therapy with me, you will be given the opportunity to learn how to set healthy boundaries with other. I can help you set limits, say no, and much more. This can look like helping you with what to say, supporting you understand what boundaries you may need, helping you understand boundary violations. After a boundary is set, we can also work on maintaining the boundary or the icky feelings that come when using your new boundaries skills.
Communication and Assertiveness
Relationships are hard, and can be even harder when you are lacking skills in communication or assertiveness (getting what you need or want). I am here to support and teach you new skills to use in many different relationships types to increase your ability to communicate and thrive.
Repeating Behaviors
Do you notice a pattern of repeating behaviors in your life? Keep repeating the same mistake? Keep reliving the same cycles in relationships? In Schema Therapy with me, we can target and challenge these behaviors. The aim of schema therapy is to help you recognize behavior, understand the underlying cause(s), and change your thoughts and behaviors so that you are better able to cope with relationship challenges or emotions in healthy, productive way.
Common questions about this type of therapy.
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Yes! I have worked and do work with folks who practice Polyamory or Ethical Non-monogamy. I have taken advanced training on these types of relationship styles. I have an open, nonjudgemental space for you to process or explore any variety of relationship styles and/or concerns.
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I do not work with couples. I will suggest couple counseling if, through our work, I think it would be beneficial. There may be times where I will invited other parties into a therapy session, if it makes sense for the purpose of treatment. This will be explored and agreed upon with the person in therapy, before it is scheduled.
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Nope. This type of therapy can be useful in many different relationship types. Families, children, co-workers, boss, lovers, friends, and so on.
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I use a combination of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy CBT, Dialectic Behavioral Therapy DBT, and Schema Therapy. I sprinkle in Acceptance and Commitment therapy ACT, and mindfulness when needed.